Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Some girl called my phone I need advice!!?

Im 8 months pregnant. Ive been with my fiance for a little over two years. He just got back from a trip for a week to see his best friend who just had a baby too. Right now hes out with his friends. This girl called me and said hold on and was talking with these guys than hung up. I called back and was like whos this? and said hold on than after a minute said sorry wrong number and hung up. Well I looked up the area code and it just happen to be from the city he was visiting. should I be worried or do you think im over reacting? Should I say something to him? and if so how should I approach it?Some girl called my phone I need advice!!?
I would ask him straight out. Just mention you got a call from a girl from the city he had just visited and was he expecting a call? There's probably a logical explanation, as hard as it may be try not to jump to any conclusions just yet!



See how he reacts. Try not to make accusations and keep it light-hearted.



Hope it works out well for you!
I would be a little suspicious but it may have been a female friend from the city who accidentally called your number if it was in her phone next to someone else. This is hardly evidence of anything dishonorable. I would ask him when he gets home or tomorrow morning if he recognizes the number. See how he responds.Some girl called my phone I need advice!!?
For your own mental health, assume it is just a coincidence. When he comes back, mention casually that you kept getting these weird calls- without making any suggestion that they're related to him, but see how he reacts, if he looks suspicious, you may want to peak into his phone and see if the number is there. If not, no issue, and you can completely put it behind you. If it is, time for a talk. It still might be innocent, but some investigation will be necessary. Take care!
It is probably just a coincidence. If you are looking, then you may push him too it if he isn't. If he has or is ..., then you will know soon enough and you probably do not want him then anyhow. Let it go and move on or let him go and move on, either way, make your choice and stick too it. That may sound harsh, but it is the best for you with a baby coming.Some girl called my phone I need advice!!?
I would be asking questions if I were you. If someone calls you and won't identify themselves, then something shady can be going on. If I were you, then I would confront him about this. Instead of busting his chops, calmly ask him who's number does the number belong to. You need to know if you might have a cheater on your hands.
best thing to do even though it is usually the hardest.... is to...



a. don't take it too seriously.... but do keep it in your head....



b. be cautious and listen to things your man says.



c.... if you notice more suspicious stuff confront him with open mind and pay attention to his body language.



and d..... if you don't let it go....
Just be like...

"Hunny buns, one of your friend's gammas rang, I think. Mabs it was wrong number"

"How do you know it was my friend's gamma?"

"I heard it in the background hunny buns"

Look after yourself bub
Why would he fool around, then hand his home phone number to her with the possibility that you could pick up ? Doesn't make sense. I would watch for further signs of cheating before jumping to conclusions on this.
be straightforward, hun. first, make a tricky plan, haha. =)
be straightforward, but not rude. tell him about the call, %26amp; how you feel.
Call back and set something up,... I'm thinking MORTAL COMBAT
I think you should approach this matter with caution. Coming off as accusing or angry might force your fiancee to be defensive and mad. Try to remain calm and think rationally about the situation. I bet that it was an old friend or a possible friend he met while visiting that city. Allow him a chance to explain, but let him know that you do not appreciate people calling you while you are already in an emotional state (being pregnant) and that it is stressful. Be sure that he understands you are not just trying to be dramatic, you would just like the truth. If he hasn't done anything like this before, then I wouldn't worry about it, however if this is common, you two should have a talk about boundaries with female friends of his.
Mm, trust in a couple is really something that is so fragile.



Of course the worst case scenario would be that he met a girl there. But then :

- either he didn't give her his number (thus showing that he doesn't care about her) and she looked it up, she didn't expect a girl to pick up the phone and will probably stop calling

- or he gave her his number (i'm assuming home line), knowing that u could be the one picking up the phone, and not caring (thus showing that he has nothing to hide from u).



Or he never met a girl, that girl really dialed a wrong number, and the area code thing is just a coincidence.



Either way, talk to him about it. Don't freak out, just tell him exactly what happened, and check out his reaction. If he blushes or acts suspicious (doesn't look u in the eye, start talking real fast...), then there is something to worry about.



Good luck.

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